The Conversation
When I told my parents I was going to make porn, the reaction was not explosive. There was no shouting, no dramatic confrontation. Instead there was silence — the kind that appears when someone is trying to understand something they never imagined needing to understand.
Eventually the question came.
Why this?
It wasn’t framed as a moral objection. It wasn’t even about sexuality. They were simply trying to understand why someone who had built a stable and comfortable life would choose something so publicly unconventional.
Sometimes the real question isn’t about your goal. It’s about the method you chose.
The Path I Was Already On
By the time this conversation happened, I had already followed what most people would consider a conventional path. I had built a professional career, invested early, achieved financial stability, and created the kind of life many immigrant parents quietly hope their children will reach.
From their perspective, the difficult part of my life story had already passed. Coming out as gay required adjustment, but eventually it became something the family could integrate into normal life.
Entering porn felt different. Not just identity, but public exposure.
Stability satisfies most expectations. Pornography raises entirely new questions.
The Question Beneath the Question
What they were really asking was simple: if your goal is to contribute something meaningful, why choose the most controversial medium possible?
Why not public speaking? Why not mentoring younger people? Why not writing, advocacy, or community leadership?
These were reasonable suggestions. All of those paths help individuals. They operate at the level of conversation, ideas, and community support.
But the more I thought about the issue I wanted to address, the clearer something became.
Those interventions operate in the higher layers of the human psyche — the intellectual and social layers.
Sexual hierarchy is not built there.
Where Hierarchy Actually Forms
Human beings have multiple psychological layers. At the top are the rational layers — where we discuss ideas, values, and principles. Beneath that are social layers — reputation, status, and belonging. And beneath those sits something much more fundamental: primal sexual instinct.
That lowest layer is not built through discussion. It is built through repetition of imagery.
Movies influence it. Advertising influences it. But nothing influences it more directly than pornography.
Porn shows bodies interacting in the most explicit and primal way possible. It establishes who leads, who follows, who dominates, and who is desired.
Porn does not debate hierarchy. It demonstrates it.
The Missing Layer
Over the past few decades, Asian men have gained representation in many higher-status areas of Western society. We are visible in universities, corporate leadership, technology, medicine, and finance. In many ways we are overrepresented in those spaces.
But those achievements sit in the intellectual and professional layers of society.
The sexual layer tells a different story.
In Western media and especially in Western gay porn, Asian men are rarely shown as sexually dominant, confident, or desired. When they appear, they are often placed into narrower roles that reinforce the opposite image.
Success in respectable spaces does not automatically translate into sexual power.
The Paradox of Overrepresentation
In fact, overrepresentation in intellectual and professional roles can sometimes make the gap even more obvious. When a group is consistently portrayed as disciplined, hardworking, and technically competent — but rarely as sexually powerful — the contrast becomes stark.
People may respect that group.
But they do not necessarily desire them.
The absence at the primal layer begins to define the group’s identity more strongly than their success at the higher layers.
If sexual representation is missing, success elsewhere highlights the absence.
Why Porn Matters
Once you recognise that hierarchy is partly reinforced through imagery, the importance of porn becomes obvious.
Pornography sits at the most primal layer of cultural influence. It directly shapes how people imagine sex, dominance, and desirability.
If Asian men are absent or misrepresented in that space, the hierarchy continues regardless of what happens in other domains.
And if that is where the imbalance is reinforced, that is also where it has to be challenged.
Why I Chose This Path
The work I create today focuses on something very specific: portraying an Asian man confidently leading and topping in gay porn, paired with attractive partners across different racial backgrounds.
Not as novelty. Not as fetish. Just as something normal.
The idea is simple. When people repeatedly see images that contradict old assumptions, those images slowly become part of the cultural reference library.
What once looked unusual eventually becomes familiar. And what becomes familiar eventually becomes normal.
That is why, when my parents asked why it had to be porn, the answer ultimately came down to one simple point.
Because this is the layer where sexual hierarchy is most strongly reinforced.
And if you want to change the hierarchy, that is the layer you have to reach.
