Identity

Living between cultures. 80% Chinese. 80% Western.

This pillar is personal. Family. shame. pride. visibility. The parts of being Asian in the West that don’t fit neatly into a neat label — but absolutely shape how we show up in bed and in life.

Why Identity

I grew up learning one set of rules, then entered a world running on another. Some days I feel too Chinese. Some days I feel not Chinese enough.

Identity isn’t just “where you’re from.” It shapes your body language, confidence, what you allow yourself to want, and what you think you’re allowed to be.

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